Out With The Old And In With The New... Mind That Is.

11:59:00 AM

While we are only four months into 2018, I feel like it has already brought so many changes into my life. Some of those changes were great but some while not bad, I realized that I just wasn't prepared for them. I really try to live a positive life with a positive mindset but every now and then negative thoughts creep into my head that sends me into a cloud of sadness. 

Thoughts like your not good enough, your never going to accomplish anything, you should have so much more by this age and of course comparing your life to others. This is always a bad thing to do but we are all guilty of it. 

I was recently reading over my post from last year called 30 things I learned at 30 and the things I talked about in that post really hit home for me.  During that time I was really happy in my private life but career wise I was miserable. I was working a job that I hated in retail promoting all of the things that I despised as far as fast fashion goes. I was falling into the trap of mindless shopping because hey 10% discount seems like a bargain right? Don't get me wrong I did like my position and loved the people I worked with but that was it. The money wasn't worth it anymore (not that I was making a crazy amount anyway) the hectic schedule wasn't worth it and it wasn't worth it morally. So after thinking it over and talking about it with my family I decided to quit, and in February of this year thats exactly what I did! Trust me making that decision wasn't easy, leaving the comfort of my full time job was scary. I thought I was a complete moron for doing it but I had to make a change, take a leap, bet on myself or whatever you want to call it. 

The day I quit my job I had all these negative thoughts in my head second guessing my every decision, but instead of giving into those thoughts I decided to make a change. I changed my mindset, I realized that I can't let negative thoughts control me. Instead I would acknowledge those thoughts but counter them with positivity. If a thought came up like "your going to be 31 in two months and you are not where you should be in life because so and so has an amazing career and a family and travels the world. What are you doing? You can barley balance your check book." I acknowledge that thought and then crush it with "shut the hell up negative thought. I am successful I have done so much with my life I love styling, yoga, music, and my blog which I am so passionate about."  One thing I have to keep reminding myself is that everyone is on their own path. Your not in front of or behind anyone. 

Speaking about my blog I have decided to devote my time and energy to putting out the best and most relevant content possible. Im highlighting designers that put an emphasis on ethical/sustainable fashion, minimalism, zero waste, music, thrifting and cruelty free beauty. I want to show that you can love fashion and the environment at the same time. Shocking right.  I would love to one day do this blog full time and make a living doing this because I really love writing content for you guys and introducing you to new designers that you may never have heard of and showing you that I struggle too, everyone does. No one is perfect and no one has a perfect life no matter what social media says.

Over these past few months i decided that Im over having it all together or trying to make it seem like I have it all together. I don't care if my Instagram isn't perfectly curated or if my apartment isn't decorated like it's straight off of Pinterest. I choose to do the things that make me happy and be surrounded by people that make me happy. I can care less about keeping up with the Joneses because as far as I'm concerned the Joneses can go fuck themselves. I will continue to be thankful for everyday I can get up and live my life because everyday is a chance to be a better person then the day before. A do over some would say. I really hope this post helps some of you because it really helped me spilling my guts to you. How do you combat negative thoughts?


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